Ki and Ka: Breaking the Stereotype
It is April and the weather is scorching hot. With nothing good about these sweltering days, Bollywood brings us a reason to look forward to the warm summer days with a few new releases. Everyone is talking about the new romantic comedy Ki and Ka starring Kareena Kapoor and Arjun Kapoor. Ki and Ka focuses on a young married couple contradicting the stereotypical job roles in our society. As stunning and flawless as Kareena is, Arjun has proved to be no less. With the movie released this Friday, it has already managed to create a lot of hype in the country.
What does it mean to be a man or a woman? Who determines how we are supposed to dressed, the way we are to walk or talk, or what kind of a job suits us the best? What traits make us more feminine or masculine? The world has a hard time accepting the fact that a woman can ride a bike too or be good enough at sport. Apparently, it would make her less of a woman and add manly traits to her personality. As per the society a woman’s ultimate role is be a “good” wife and cook round chappatis. Women are not the only victim of what are known as the stereotypical gender roles. A man is never supposed to want to be a chef or a designer. It wouldn’t matter if he’s actually good at what he does, being a chef would make him less of a man.
“The problem with labels is that they lead to stereotypes and stereotypes lead to generalizations and generalizations lead to assumptions and assumptions lead back to stereotypes.” -Ellen Degeneres
In the movie, all Arjun Kapoor wants to be a “house husband”. Sounds weird, right? We all use stereotypes all the time, mostly without even realizing it. It is not yourself that you should blame. It is the society that moulds our thinking. Everyone can have their own opinions but you should definitely have your own. Arjun Kapoor, in this movie breaks through all the stereotypes and does what he loves to do instead. Kareena, on the other hand, is what we call an independent woman. She loves her job and wants to have a life of her own. Obviously, it is not easy for her either as women are not the ones who should be earning and making a living. No matter who disapproves they go on to live their lives as they choose to live. This movie is all about being who you are and never to be apologetic for your beliefs.
We call ourselves a free and independent nation. The Constitution empowers us with numerous rights promising freedom of all sorts. But the question to ask is, are we really free? The harsh truth being that we have never been so bound. We are no less than the lion in a circus. The society being circus master whipping us to make us do what it wants. We do as we are told and the most saddening reality is that we do not even question.
Who makes the rules of our society legit? Who tells us what is right and what’s wrong? We are our only master. The society is not to exercise any right on how we choose to live. Our acceptance to the norms of the society and trying to abide by them is what we do wrong. We have chosen the enemy of our freedom and the enemy is us. Breaking this stereotypical barrier is what actually means to be free. Going against all odds to claim what’s ours is what we should do. True peace is in knowing that, 20 years down the line, when we are old and our skin’s saggy, we have made every day between the firm skin and the wrinkled worth the while by doing everything we’ve ever wanted to do.
Bollywood plays a major role in shaping our lives. It defines how things are ought to be and how we see them. The actors represent us in our daily lives and the movie being a virtual setting in which we go about our lives. Although few things in the movies may seem objectionable to critics, it more or less portrays the true essence of the society. Ki and Ka is the rightful portrayal of the biased gender roles prevailing in our society and how desires and ambitions remain buried deep inside one’s soul while he stresses out playing by the society’s rules.