Sapna Bhavnani:I Remember Walking Home, Showering and Pushing this Incident to the Back of My Mind…
This is a true heart-wrenching story of Sapna Bhavnani, a celebrity hair dresser. This world has not known many confessions by celebrities. The former Bigg Boss 6 contestant, Sapna Bhavnani is one inspiring woman. She is the epitome of courage and belief. She is the strongest inspiration for all the girls out there.
Her story originally appeared at Humans of Bombay Facebook page.
“When I was 14, I used to talk to boys; drive motor cycles, smoke cigarettes and people in Bandra would often call me a whore because of those things. I never understood the term back then, but sure if doing all those things made me a whore– I’d take it gladly. After my father’s death, I moved to Chicago where there were so many like me and it gave me the freedom to get inked, experiment with my hair and just be myself. One Christmas Eve in Chicago, I walked out of a bar alone late at night in a short dress and red lipstick. I was 24 and had been drinking, when from a dumpster a group of guys walked up to me and put a gun to my head asking me to give them blow jobs, eventually leading to gang rape. I remember walking home, showering and pushing this incident to the back of my mind for years and never letting it break my spirit – I still wear short dresses and the brightest red on my lips.
In years to come, I got married to my high school sweetheart, faced domestic violence and walked out of the marriage wondering how this could happen to ME, a feminist? It’s because sometimes there are things that are beyond your control. We live in a world where everyone stresses the importance of voicing yourself or walking out of tough situations, but I just want to say this— no one wants to be beaten up, get raped or sell their bodies. It took me 20 years to voice my incident, but for me a woman keeping it all within her because she has no other choice isn’t a sign of weakness – it’s a mark of strength and something we need to start respecting.”
This story is a reminder to all the girls in the world. Nothing could make Sapna stop from pursuing her dreams. She never let anything break her courage. She kept moving on until she found what she was aiming for. All of us need to derive strength from this story. We need to learn how to love and respect ourselves. No one can tell us who we are. Her story is never to be forgotten. I salute this lady.