The Science Behind Why Rejection Hurts


The Science Behind Why Rejection Hurts

You think you are the only one who hates Rejection? Well, you are not alone mate. Studies have proven that your brain hates it even more than you do. Yes, breakups activate the area of your brain that processes craving and addiction. Let’s just say that you got a crush on someone and you proposed to them and you both were having a really good time. Trusting firmly that they are the one and all of a sudden the person you thought was the one meant for you dumped you. That would really be a shock, after this breakup you would lose motivation, find challenges insurmountable, and sometimes would feel like you won’t love again. A breakup hurts you both physically and mentally, physical pain – hurt, pain, ache – are used to describe the pain caused from a relationship breakup.

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Losing your one-and-only is the worst thing that could happen in a relationship. And the pain you feel in your chest is the real pain that’s coming from inside your head. It has been proven the same by several studies. An assistant professor of psychology at the University of California at Los Angeles named Naomi Eisenberger, Ph.D. says, that your head is signaling to your body that being dumped actually hurts.

Breaking up with your other half is considered as an upsetting experience by your brain and during any upsetting experience, your brain pumps out cortisol, epinephrine, and other stress hormones and an overabundance of cortisol tells your brain to send too much blood to your muscles, causing them to tense up and coristol also diverts blood away from your digestive track, leaving you with some serious GI unpleasantness. An chemical called oxytocin and other feel good hormones are released when you are in love, by your gray matter. But a sudden break up suddenly takes off your supply of those feel-good natural chemicals. Which in turn leaves you more vulnerable to stress hormones. When stress hormones run rampant, the immune system can struggle, increasing vulnerability to bugs and illnesses. Yes a rejection does have the power to hurt you.

A study conducted on 40 people who had recently been through an unwanted breakup has proved that, rejection shares somatosensory representations with physical pain. The subjects were asked to look at pictures of their ex-lovers and were asked to think about them. As they stared at the photos, the part of the brain associated with physical pain lit up. They demonstrate that rejection and physical pain are similar, because both are distressing and even shares a common somatosensory representation as well.

Stony Brook University conducted a study. Where they compared the brains of people in love and those who’d recently lost it, with the brains of drug addicts. And the result is romantic rejecter and cocaine craving have several neural correlates in common. And this explains why rejection are difficult to control. Dr. Aron said, that intense romantic love seems to function much like an addiction. The brain of a drug addict and the brain of one who was dumped recently shared similar qualities.

A study conducted by University of Kentucky has concluded that, Tylenol (an over the counter medication for physical pain) has been shown to reduce emotional hurt. The effect was also evident in brain scans. Thus proving that breakups causes pain and the part of the brain associated with physical pain lits up and subjects who took tylenol showed significantly less activity in that part of the brain. We at team Fantoosy wouldn’t sugest you to take Tylenol to reduce the mental pain of your breakup.