How Spending Time Alone Will Help You
People these days are so incredibly scared of being alone. It either means you’re anti-social, or unwanted, neither of which are a good position to be in. But actually, being alone isn’t’ necessarily a bad thing, as there are a handful of benefits that emerge once you learn to embrace solitude. We make friends who usually aren’t worth having. We date people we shouldn’t be dating. Little did we know that being alone can be helpful, too.
Introduces you to your weaknesses
People seem to be afraid of getting to know themselves because they are afraid of what they’ll find. We all have our weaknesses. We can either ignore them or understand them and learn how to position ourselves in a way where we either work on them or avoid having to expose them.
You learn things about yourself
You gain insight into you as an individual when you understand the way you perceive the world. The more you introspect, you become a better judge of both the outside world and yourself. Spending time alone develops the ability to differentiate oneself from all those thoughts floating about in one’s head.
You become less dependent on others
The need to be social, to interact with others is what keeps people from being alone. Moreover, the amount necessary is much less than the amount we feel we need. Today, most of us are dependent on others for our happiness. We use them as distractions. But why do we need to distract from ourselves? You don’t have to feel the need to keep you away from yourself.
You don’t seek validation
We constantly turn to other people for advice on what we should do next. There are times when it is downright necessary. But sometimes we’re perfectly capable of acting on our own, be we instead of looking to others for an answer. Trusting your instincts and making decisions without any third party validation is what you learn when you spend some alone time.
You don’t have to apologize for anything
When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll quickly see that solitude means you don’t have to keep apologizing for what you’ve done. So often, things we do end up upsetting other people, or hurting their feelings, which calls for apologizing for it. Being alone takes a lot of pressure out of most situations. You don’t need to be afraid that someone is going to be offended, or saddened, and angered.
Some people think of being alone as a bad. But I am saying that once you learn to enjoy being alone, you’re going to grow as a person.